you can make a difference - in your own life

the smallest things in life can make a difference, the little favours you do for people that make them smile; the door you hold open for someone behind you; the thank you that you say to an employee that did a good job; the high five to a co-worker when you finally solve that problem; the I love you that you say to your child before they go to bed; the song you sing at the top of your voice on your drive home from work (normally Elton John) . . . . . . all these little things make each day seem sweeter, happier and shorter.

I keep talking about life being an echo - that what you put out there comes back at you.

This is so important, if you are negativity you will only create more negativity . . . . so do the opposite, be positive (even in those Oh Shit moments), be positive when it doesnt go the way you want it to; find something positive when the co-worker or employee lets you down a bit; find happiness in the smallest things - the sun shining, the rain falling, the fact there were no traffic jams, that you have the money to fill up your gas tank - even at these insane prices.

Positivity breeds positivity. I was asked at work recently if I am ever in a bad mood - shows they dont know me too well yet! And then I realized that since I started at the OSA, my mood has been good. Yes, I am tired - I am brain drained - I am challenged beyond what I thought was my limits - but I yawn and then smile; i turn off the computer and sing loudly on the way home; I take on the challenges and know there is room for improvement - and I will improve.

I am lucky to be surrounded by wonderful people in my life, and some of them are struggling with their positivity at this time. It is hard for people to sometimes see that there is light at the end of the tunnel - and not to feel that you are not alone in the world; not to feel like you are the only person that has ever struggled with their particular situation. And there is nothing I can say to 'click their switch' - sometimes we have to find our own way to that light in order to grow, learn, persevere and achieve.

But growing, learning and achieving are not easy tasks.. . . . . i have friends in transition - that seems to be the word this month . . . . the earth is shifting; two full moons in one week; solar flares; weather up and down - how are we expected to stay on track? We stay on our own track, not the track others expect you to take, or tell you to take - but the track you personally want to take. It may be a dirt track with ruts, potholes and cracks, but with the support and energy of everyone surrounding them, you can bypass the potholes, jump the cracks and fill in the ruts with positive energy.

If nothing in your life seems to be going right - look around, what is the common denominator in all the problems and issues? Could the common denominator be you? Are you projecting negativity? Are you creating the need for transition? Are you in a flux?

that is a tough thing to admit, cos that means you are not perfect, possibly out of control, letting others determine your path (on that dirt track). But, and this is a big BUT - YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Only you can look deep inside and see what really ails you. Only you can look in the mirror and see the real you. Only you can take all that inner strength and battle down all the obstacles that are affecting your life. Only you will know when it is time to do so.

I am not a preacher - I have been down that dirt track, more than once, and it took support from the people I love and admire; it took taking a leap out of the comfort zone; it took me admitting that I was not who I wanted to be; It took me realizing that I did not love myself, although others seemed to love me. It was a 2 year transition for me to be ME again.

So to all my friends and family that are in 'that state of mind', or 'time in their life', look in the mirror, tell yourself you love you, tell yourself you are worth it (whatever it is), tell yourself I AM ME, and no-one can take me down. Change the 'common denominator' - take control, love yourself.

I did it two years ago, and I did make a difference, in my own life.

Blessings.